If I Can't Have You, Let Love Set You Free, To Fly Your Pretty Wings Around.....

THE FOLLOWING IS FICTION BUT BASED LOOSELY ON TRUE EVENTS
So I know I told you all that I would stop blogging about work because a certain "someone" finally found out that I had this blog, but this has got to go up!
Now I'm not one to air out anyone else's laundry, nor skivvies, but this is pretty scandalous!
Here goes: one of my coworkers is cheating on her bf of 8 years! But before you pass judgement, there's more background info!
She's young, in her early 20's, stunning blonde, former surfer/snowboarder girl, and has no problem turning heads wherever she goes. Her bf is also young, dumb, pretty much your regular ignorant jock kinda guy. He treats her totally badly, doesn't compliment her, doesn't take her anywhere, and completely does not know what he's got on his hands. It's to the point where her self esteem is totally down the crapper, and she has ZERO confidence in herself!
So here's where the Hollywood part kicks in: Everyone has been telling her to leave her bf, and she would nervously laugh it off at first, but it's finally started to sink in. Her bf just bought a new bike and is touring with it up in Northern Ont for a few weeks. So, she took the opportunity to get introduced to some new friends through other friends, and ended up going on a few dates. (Hollywood, right? Stay Tuned there's more!) One date in particular went well I guess and dude has been calling her at work. I'm sure he has no clue that she has her bf, but oh well. Not my business to tell him that! (like any of this is my business in the first place!) I can't help but overhear some of the conversations that take place (we work in a tiny office, open concept).
It kinda worries me because although her bf has been treating her like sh*t, is that grounds for anyone to go cheating on anyone else? I guess I would rather see her come clean, break it off with bf, and then hit the town dating other guys. I also guess that the bf has totally ruined her self esteem to the point where she's afraid of being alone also. I'm not passing judgement at all, but things like these do make me wonder about life, love, and human interactions.

The one thing I learned very very early in life: You can never truly love someone until you've learned to love yourself. Some of you may say yah yah yah, whatevs, but think about it, those are powerful words. Love itself is powerful. There are many people who go through life without truly knowing the meaning nor the power of LOVE. And what's worse, there are some that never know UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Loving yourself doesn't just mean that you like who you are, or that you have a big ego, it means that you've accepted you for yourself, you support yourself, you are there for yourself, and you respect yourself. This is not saying that everyone has to be SOOO independent that they don't need anyone else in their lives, but at least be in a stage where you LOVE yourself and put yourself first. Then and only then can your heart and mind truly accept and acknowledge that you can LOVE someone else. And that's also how you know when you're in love. I didn't intend to write a lecture on love, so I won't. All I can say is that be careful this summer. Be very very careful.

Song of the Day: Pretty Wings - Maxwell